Please help my marriage!!!

BurghGirl · Newbie Alert Joined: 11 Nov 2004 Posts: 3

Dear Lord, I am a newlywed and I love my husband dearly, however, we are experiencing complications. When I met my husband, he had been divorced and his ex wife had a daughter who was not biologically his. She is no longer around, and the consequences are extremely difficult for me to handle. I want me and my husband to have a family of our own; I can't handle raising a child that is not mine, nor my husband's. Due to this situation, I have become extremely depressed, not to mention it is tearing our marriage apart. Please help my husband to realize that this matter is out of his hands, and please help him to accept that she is gone. Also, please give him all the strength that he needs to let go, move on, and to focus and work on our marriage. I want this marriage to work, and I don't want our love to fail. I am considering a divorce, but I want this marriage to work and I just want to be happy!!! In addition, please place this child in a loving home that is suitable and safe for her. I ask this through Christ, Our Lord.
Amen

jekylczar · Growing Guppy Joined: 19 Dec 2003 Posts: 40

I am praying for you and your family. I know this is a difficult time for you. My favorite bible verse is Proverbs 3:5-6.

Mel · Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2005 11:31 pm Post subject:

I know this must be a difficult time for you but please put yourself in the position of the child. First of all I find it extremely admirable that your husband would continue to raise a child that is not biologically his, although, depending on how long his first marriage lasted, he may love this child as if he/she were his own and asking him to choose would not only place him in a very difficult position, but could also create a deeper rift in your marriage . Secondly, I don't know if the child's biological father was ever in the picture, I am assuming he wasn't, but your husband may be the only loving adult figure in this child's life at this moment as he/she has already been abandoned by the mother. Separating the child from your husband and placing him/her in another home may cause emotional damage to the child that he/she may or may not overcome as an adult. You don't say whether or not you get along with the child but I am gathering that the disturbance you feel is because the child represents your husband's ex-wife, whose presence you would like out of your lives. But look at it this way, suppose the child was biologically your husband's, would you still feel the same? I will pray that God helps you to perhaps open your heart and find a way to love this child in spite of his/her biological lineage. I know that this may not be what you want to hear but remember, Joseph, Mary's husband, also accepted a child that wasn't his.

June-Clare · Kitten Joined: 28 May 2004 Posts: 130 Location: Mwanza

I agree with Mel's explanations...I understand how people feel raising children who are not theirs or even their partners. What I can see here is that perhaps the child has never been loved by anyone even her mother herself. For her perhaps your husband means everything... and one thing I would just like us to remember is LOVE IS CENTRE OF ALL, it does not matter whom are we loving, loves does not have limits and exeptions. Whatever we do in our lives, however we pray, however we praise and worship God, if we do not have Love, then all what we do is nothing...What I can advice you is that pray God lead you the way to deal with the prevailing situation. This might be God's plans and we never know until when the exact time of knowing is there...Be Blessed
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June

patches334 · Newbie Alert Joined: 26 Jan 2005 Posts: 4

i am praying that god will open your heart and fill it with love for the child he has put in your path to love, there is no greater love than the love for a child regardless of its parents, i pray you will find peace and your marriage will flourish, god bless you

kcorm · Tadpole Joined: 06 Mar 2005 Posts: 16

I will pray for you in this difficult time. I hope that you will find the strength in your heart to accept this little girl for what she is, just a little girl who wants to be loved. I have faith that you can be a powerful role-model for her and can make a difference in her life when she has no one else. Perhaps instead of thinking of her as a problem in your new marriage you could think of her as a gift from God.
I hope that you find a solution to your problem and that you find peace.
God Bless You.
kcorm

Teri Michelle · Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 8:19 am Post subject:

Dear Lord,

Thank You for this family. Thank You that this woman would come to You and lift up the burden on heart. Your power knows no bounds Lord, glory to You forever~

Lord I pray for this little girl. I pray that Your hand will be upon her shoulder guiding her all the days of her life. I pray that no matter what her life brings she will know that she is loved and cherished by You. Lord I pray that she will seek You out for guidance and love.

Lord I pray for this woman who has brought this before You. I pray that Your will be done in this situation and her marriage. Lord if it be Your will I pray that You will soften her heart towards this child. I pray that she would welcome her in with open loving arms, seeing her as Your child and loving her for it. Lord I pray for the husband/father in this situation. I pray that he will come to You for guidance and strength to accept what Your answers are and to bend to Your will. Lord I pray that these three people will be a loving closely bound family if that be Your will.

In Jesus' name I pray
Amen
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many blessings to you and yours'~
Teri Michelle

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